Mary, Thank you for these bulleted points. And yes, no one is every done healing. This is why we are here I believe. Its really just peeling the onion of our wounds. And because there is no end to healing it takes the pressure off of "getting there". It is a journey and every step we take is a another moment of becoming who we fully are: divine beings of love. How wonderful to know that every day upon awakening it is a new opportunity to journey in health and healing. And I might add breath and qi gong to your list of tools one can explore. Again, thank you for this.

Audrey, Thank you for your heartfelt post. I too, like you, did not grow up as a victim of abuse. At least that's what I thought. However, the work that you and other's like you are doing is helping me to understand that there are many nuances to abuse. The hurt, as a result, is the same for everyone. Hurt is hurt. Your paragraph that broaches the subject of transformation is by far, in my opinion the truly the most important, as you suggest. How it is done can be offered in so many different ways. As a Chinese Medicine Practitioner, we believe in order to heal it is vital to have all three "treasures" aligned, ie. wisdom/spirit, loving compassion and a vital body. We each have gifts to give. As I unlearn old patterns of thoughts, beliefs and behaviors, I am more able to help others unlearn theirs. This makes space for the alignment of these three treasures. Each and every human has gifts to give. Let us give ours so those that have been abused can realize theirs. Thank you Audrey for your sharing your thoughts.